Many studies suggest, and psychologists have proven, that women are better communicators, nurturers, and caretakers. Men’s strength is to mostly rule with their intellect, they reason with fewer emotions, and are more controlled in many situations. However, this is not a psychology paper or medical research study. This is a purely metaphysical look at our differences in the mental; an examination of the female mind and the difference between the male and female element. So the question I ask today is: What does this difference mean to the metaphysician? How does this seeming diversity relate to our thoughts and our daily experiences?
Our consciousness contains the male and the female element. When used in mind the elements are also called ‘reason’ and ‘feeling’. The male element or reasoning ability does the analytical chores, while the female element or feeling ability does the nurturing, loving, and reacts emotionally. We, both men and women, are comprised of both elements; however, we express what we have ‘more off’. I am a woman because I have more of the female element present, a man has more of the male element, and so forth.
This excerpt of my book “…because you can!” will explain the connection in a more traditional way. The chapter is called: “What does marriage represent in the mental?”
The concept of marriage in the mental represents the blending together of the male and female elements in mind. This is not a physical action, but a mental one. It takes the male and the female elements, knowing and feeling, to create anything. What is made, or appears in the visible world, was first conceived in the mental, nurtured by good thoughts, and born through our conclusion or conviction, which is a feeling of certainty. It is a visible picture of our conscious thoughts and desires.
The birth of a child is also the visible expression of this mental process. The observable symbol of earthly marriage is the coming together of a man and woman to create more life. As we explored earlier we are all composed of the male and female elements. We are a complete whole, and we give birth to more wholeness, physically and mentally. We are multiplying life into its visible form. The focal point of our journey is to unfold and gain an understanding of the truth of life. This includes how the creation or birth process works.
So how does the male and female element affect our daily lives? Our thoughts are the creators of our experiences. We can think as many good and right thoughts as we want to, but - unless we feel these thoughts as true, we will not manifest our desires.
Feeling is the mother of all creation. Giving birth does not only mean giving birth to children to replenish the earth, it also means giving birth to ideas and everything that exists in our wonderful realm. Everything you see is a specific idea and was conceived by a thinker. It was not only conceived, but also nurtured and carried in mind until it was time for the idea to be born and manifested into this world. It could only be born if a feeling of certainty, the conviction that ‘it is so’ was reached. This full understanding of the specific idea brought forth the experience, or manifestation.
I’d like to point out why being the “mother” or feeling/ female element is most important. Our children are thought children or ideas, as mentioned earlier. Babies born, reflect life’s urge to express more of itself – which could not be done without the feeling/ female element, hence woman. If we would only use the male element, the idea of birth would be trapped, just sitting there as an idea in mind, conceived by reason or the male element, but not brought to fruition.
The reflection or picture in the material world shows forth as the male being equipped with all of his potential, yet trapped without a female to produce more life. At this stage he would not be able to create more life of his own. Even though reason, thoughts, potential, the male element, comes first - the feeling of certainty necessary to generate the final creation of all, including more life, must be present. This process clearly shows that life consists of both, male and female –elements – as neither could produce without the other.
A baby’s sex is determined at the point of conception, depending on the dominant mental element present. This is a progressive idea and most likely will meet with some resistance. But I have observed this concept over many years. When I first read about this discovery I was pregnant myself and I was not surprised that we produced a son. Again, these are metaphysical theories and not backed up with medical studies.
Remember, the All-Power, Universal Intelligence, created all things from within. They are not created from nor are they of the material world. All creatures and things stem from this godly source and are projected out into the visible world. However, the substance of you, us, and all things remain of Universal Intelligence and are of mental origin.
In my world, there is only me and my sense of me. In your world, there is only you and your sense of you. No one knows how you feel and what you think deep down in your heart, not even your family or closest friends. Your feelings, emotions, and thoughts are your own; they are your secret.
I therefore ask of you: Don’t see yourself as being a man or woman. Don’t buy into being black or white, or whatever color your skin exhibits. Do not think that your sexual orientation is who you are. Do not use the country of your birth as your identity.
All of these are only perceptions. They label you to act one way or another. See yourself as a mentality, a soul. Free yourself of the sense of racial, cultural, and sexual limitation. Act as the free Spirit you are. Your soul does not have a specific color or race; it is not only a man or a woman. It contains ALL. As it so beautifully says in The Course in Miracles: “I am not a body. I am free. For I am still as God created me.”