It took me some time not to react when people were unkind or hurtful. The ones who try to manipulate and control your every action by shutting you down and making you feel less than.
Honestly, I’m still working on some of my week spots, the buttons that seem to be easily pushed. I’m still nurturing the wounds that were afflicted on me a long time ago, or were they? Was it me that allowed it to affect me? Of course.
However, it takes practice not to take others' insensitive comments personally. It also takes deep thought to see the truth that these actions aren’t about me or you, but it is the other’s mistaken sense that makes them lash out and act improper. It’s their pain, their insecurities – so why allow them to touch our hearts?
We must remember, when the people we’re dealing with seem difficult, manipulative, controlling, rude or unpleasant, remember, it’s not about me or you, but it’s about them and their mental distorted pains.
The “higher” thought to hold in mind is, that they are by nature as good and perfect as we are. They, however, have lost their true character just for the time being. We must keep that thought, not as a judgment but with love, and we must not waver. Soon they will either respond to this truth and our loving attitude, or they will move on. We are the cause of everything that befalls us everyday of our lives. We can change our experience. What a freeing thought!
Honestly, I’m still working on some of my week spots, the buttons that seem to be easily pushed. I’m still nurturing the wounds that were afflicted on me a long time ago, or were they? Was it me that allowed it to affect me? Of course.
However, it takes practice not to take others' insensitive comments personally. It also takes deep thought to see the truth that these actions aren’t about me or you, but it is the other’s mistaken sense that makes them lash out and act improper. It’s their pain, their insecurities – so why allow them to touch our hearts?
We must remember, when the people we’re dealing with seem difficult, manipulative, controlling, rude or unpleasant, remember, it’s not about me or you, but it’s about them and their mental distorted pains.
The “higher” thought to hold in mind is, that they are by nature as good and perfect as we are. They, however, have lost their true character just for the time being. We must keep that thought, not as a judgment but with love, and we must not waver. Soon they will either respond to this truth and our loving attitude, or they will move on. We are the cause of everything that befalls us everyday of our lives. We can change our experience. What a freeing thought!
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