It’s mostly something from the distant past, something we held onto for a long time, or a slight resentment or memory of an unpleasant experience - or in some cases a relationship quarrel that needs attention.
And there are the not so distant, the recent hurts, we feel were inflicted by someone we love dearly and we never thought we would have to endure.
But what do we do with this negative spark? Most of the time we shove it back under the rug, whisk it away like it is no big deal. Or is it?
A couple of months ago I was reminded that whisking away old hurts doesn’t solve the underlying issue. It only prolongs it. Stuffing the negative emotions back down my own throat, puts them right back onto the shelving of the subconscious mental store house.
The cure is forgiveness. But that is easier said than done.
Dr. Joseph Murphy stated: “Forgiveness is love in action. Without love in our hearts, we stumble and fall.”
This sounds reasonable and lovely, however, forgiving an apparent ‘wrong’ seems to be a daunting task, and therefore we continue to nurture this seed of pain until it grows into a giant weed, and yes – we stumble and fall all over again.
As I am pondering these thoughts, I ask myself: Who must I forgive? What is there to forgive? Is it my own lack of self-worth that needs a shot in the arm? Is it my doubts and fears of failure, of being abandoned, loneliness, and insecurities that need healing? Do I forgive myself or the other? Or both?
At this point in my unfoldment I believe that I must forgive all and any so-called wrong doings no matter how painful. Why?
Because I am the one who will suffer if I continue to hold on to the disappointments and pains I feel. It is I who will develop physical ills like arthritis or stiffness of any kind, caused by resentment. It is I who will experience an inharmonious and unhappy state of mind until my bitterness and grievances are solved. It is I that suffers. It is not worth it!
We all deserve to be happy and live the life we imagined for ourselves. Forgiveness must be part of this life. Ultimately, Forgiveness is Love.
Wishing you a peaceful day!