I’ve heard ‘Give it time’ from friends and business partners, it pops up on TV, may it be in an ad or a show; even my doctor is periodically reminding me for the last couple of months: ‘Give it time’.
If you are like me, you want things to move, ideas to come to fruition, life to go on comfortably. I want to spice up my life with some fresh, new ideas. Why be stuck with the old and outgrown? After all, I have imagination, I have desire, and I have the power to create. So why this rush to action? Why not ‘Giving it time’?
Do I feel like I’m running out of time? Is the sense of time quickly passing a concern of mine?
I frequently remind myself that life is an adventure, a learning experience. Every day something new emerges, something else to solve or handle. Isn’t that the excitement of living? Does it feel like all my goals and ambitions will fade away by slowing down and ‘Giving it time’?
But here we are in these uncertain and confusing times, seemingly stuck, out of control, or so it seems, and therefore we are tempted to not only take control back of our own situation, but also to advise and lecture our loved ones.
If I can’t move fast enough with my own plans, I reason, at least I want to make sure that they are on this journey of betterment with me. Why do I assume I know a way out? Is it my defense mechanism brought on by years of self-preservation?
‘Give me time’ they utter, ‘I’m not ready for this…’ and so I must be patient and allow them to unfold on their own terms, their own time, inching their way toward perfection ever so gently just like the rest of us.
And while my inner angels whisper ‘Give it time’ I remind myself not to forget to enjoy the process and to turn challenges into possibilities in a kind and loving way. Not just for them - but for myself.