“Love is always bestowed as a gift—freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love.” Leo Buscaglia
 
Many times, we have an expectancy of what others should be or what they should do, especially with close friends and family members. However, it is not our place to judge or tell others what to do. “I know that!” you say, but do we always stick to this knowing? Or do we react emotionally and judgingly? Our responsibility is only to take care of our own selves and correct our own wrong thinking; I’m sure that should keep us busy for a while. I know it’s keeping me occupied…
 
When looking at other people, it is only our reaction to the other person that triggers a response in us that is either pleasant or disturbing. When confronted, it is imperative to know that the other person speaks from his or her own viewpoint, not necessarily from the truth. So why do we care what the other person thinks about us?
 
If we are like-minded individuals, we will automatically attract each other and enjoy each other’s company. If we are not like-minded, or on a similar frequency, we must let them go. We want to spend time with persons who are on our wavelength, don’t we? 
 
Every aspect of our lives touches someone else by rippling out toward our family, friends, and those we come into contact with. They will feel the love we exude. Our immediate family living with us will appreciate the nurturing and support we are providing.
 
The good we experience comes from the good we give recognition to. It is our reflection, what we see in ourselves now. Therefore, we must watch our feelings toward people; it’s a multiplier. We must start thinking of ourselves as good and perfect. And we must think the same of others, despite all appearances. Let practice!
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It’s OK to make mistakes. Making mistakes is part of life.  While growing up we are told “don’t do this” or “don’t say that” and we listened not knowing better. At times we had guidance from parents, teachers and mentors. Right or wrong, we still had to test everything for ourselves, so we would know what works and what doesn’t, what makes us happy or sad. We had to discover what’s the right decision for each and every one of us, because we are individuals and the Law works individually.

Through making mistakes we learned to do better, we became who we are today. Therefore, however severe we think the consequences of our choices are, making mistakes doesn’t make us bad, stupid, or less than.

Yet, we chastise and punish ourselves for our immature actions. We constantly degrade ourselves. ‘I’m not good enough, I’m not capable, I’m not smart enough, I’m too old for this or that’…always something that isn’t in conformity with the Truth. Do you think that our spiritual source, our mother/father, is less than or not good enough?

Putting ourselves down is letting God down, because we are part of this Universal Power. God, our source, looks at us without judgment or favoritism. It does not punish or reward. It only acts according to Universal Law. So, let us live according to the Law, because we are here to unfold our innate perfection and to remember who we really are; beings of love and light.
#inspiration
#thoughttheories
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​Today I want to talk a little bit about emotions. We all have emotions, good and bad.  Grief about losing a loved one, sadness and depression, anger because we feel we’ve been treated unfairly, or even feeling sorry for ourselves for a number of reasons. On the other hand, we feel exhilaration about a new project, infatuation with a new lover, or overly compassionately for a cause that’s dear to our heart. “Such is life” as my dear departed Dad used to tell me.
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It’s a normal part of our existence, but if we indulge in our emotions, i.e. go overboard and dwell on them, or don’t let go of some negativity that we’ve been holding on for too long, we will experience the consequences of such a wrong mental mood.

Don’t succumb to emotions. Emotions are the wild card that will keep you short of true reason.

What do I mean by that? When we get emotional about any issue we tend to react rather than step back, think, decide, and act. Once we are fully engulfed in our feelings we no longer think reasonably or rationally. Instead, we blow everything out of proportion and dig ourselves into a deeper "hole".

Even with good emotions, like love and compassion, it’s important to stay balanced and evenly reasonable. Yes, there is such a thing than too much compassion. When we start neglecting ourselves, in body and spirit, and only focus on the cause we are passionate about, we are out of balance. When we are trying to convince the world to think like us, because we feel so deeply that we are in the right and others are in the wrong, we are out of balance. When we start developing anger and hatred for something that’s going on in the world and it causes us to feel that anger and disgust so deeply, it will affect our bodily health.
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It's not worth it and therefore, I know that I will watch my emotions carefully and always consult with my reasoning, to straighten myself out. Reason first, think about how to make this your best life ever, and then feel it, think it, love it, and feel it some more!

​When was the last time that you were perfectly calm and at peace? Nothing was troubling you, nothing bothered your conscience, no worries crept up in the midst of the night, no hesitation about a project you worked on, and no concerns when your bank account looked sparse?  
In this hectic world of ours we must ask ourselves, what would make us less frantic and what would lessen our anxieties?
 
What makes us think that there could be anything but the good? Why go to negative expectations instead of having faith in the positive? Again, ask yourself:  Why do I talk about my problems all the time? Do I need confirmation that I’m doing the right thing? What does hearing myself speak out loud do to my thought habits? Does it intensify the feeling of being right? Or am I reaching out for help?

Focusing on the negative is an addictive and destructive habit. Instead, we must talk about what’s good in our lives, the joys and upsides rather than the daily frustrations.
Let’s not try to fix the outside, our perception of what we see; it’s our inside, our innermost thoughts and feelings, that need attention.

Practice the Art of Calmness. Letting go of worries and fears - easier said than done, you say? Yes, I know…but only practice makes perfect. We have thought wrongly and negatively for so long, now we’ll have change our long-held thought habits and turn them into a ray of light. You can do it!
#inspiration
#thoughttheories