The reason resentment is so tough to correct is the fact that we justify our actions. We think we are right. We think others have wronged us. We think that we have been treated unfairly and we certainly are convinced that we would never do to anyone what they did to us. Think about this for a minute!
Maybe, what happened in your life has been unfair, maybe you didn’t deserve being laid off the job or you didn’t get the promotion you desired. Maybe you resent a relative’s behavior. Maybe you despise the ex-spouse for the breach of trust inflicted upon you. But here is the deal: Resentment will cause you to suffer. You are the one that will experience the aches and pains of inflexibility, sore muscles, stiff bones, and excruciating discomfort. Why? Because a stubborn and stiff mental attitude will cause exactly these afflictions. Our experiences reflect our thoughts held in mind for a long period of time. We need to take this mental disposition called resentment seriously.
Resentment is a feeling; a feeling of dislike, anger, bitterness and offence, which can (and will) turn into hate eventually. Don’t let that happen! This angry bitterness will eat away at our core and deprive us of our daily happiness. It will limit us in everything we do. We might think that we have solved the issues with the other person, but please let us look deep inside of ourselves and listen carefully.
Do you still twitch when you hear the other person’s name? Do you feel your stomach turn when you look at old photos of the perpetrator? Do you avoid the company of the person? What about the family members who constantly are asking for a hand-out, or the other side of the spectrum, are always bragging about their good fortune? People who have taken more than they give…
Forgiveness is the healer. I’ve heard someone say: ”I can forgive, but I will never forget!” Let me tell you something. As long as we haven’t “forgotten” the incident that caused our resentment, we have not forgiven. Because, if any time a feeling comes to light that is lesser than good, we are still suffering from “not letting go”.
It’s not worth it, I tell you. You are better off to let go and move on. Today is a brand new day with new hopes and aspirations, a day that can be shaped into whatever you want it to be – by you! Resentment has no place in a happy and fulfilled life and by letting it go we will restore our health, loosen our stiff bones, get rid of our arthritis and our bodily pains caused by our stubbornness and un-forgiveness.
Be good to yourself!